And, I am not sure, but I don't think he is the only one! We all know an Eeyore.
I have a dear dear friend who is very sick, he is weary of the constant struggle against life, he seems to be caught in a downward spiral and can't halt the momentum. His immediate family are not being as supportive as expected in this situation. Sigh*
Being in despair and frustration, he calls around gathering support for his situation from friends near and far. Telling his tale of woe and garnering pity, and the mud gets deeper. This does not take away from the fact that his situation is dire and from his perspective, waist deep, there does not seem to be a way to turn. His stories get witnessed and validated and nothing changes.
Whilst we live our lives expecting others to change or at least meet us halfway with change we will invariably be disappointed. Every suggestion I make is met with a BUT, yes but or no but. No change, a stalemate leaving ONLY him in misery.
How do we ultimately step out of the quagmire?
I have journeyed with wanting to FIX people,
rescue them, heal them, help them wake up.
Having tapped into inner peace I have had an overwhelming urge to share it,
the JOY and the connection to it. I have found myself going out into the world with a soft smile,
to speak of my understanding.
Many times I have heard it said, there is something about you, but mostly it remained
unidentified. It doesn't really have a label anyway, it's an energy, a state of being, we all have it.
And so, I would tell anyone who would listen to change their minds to change their experience
of life. I have heard many stories of victimhood and despair, of pain and fear and frustration.
Of not fairness, life shouldn't be the way it is. I have given many answers from my own levels
of understanding. Some of these answers evolving from, only love is real, to it is what it is and
never forgetting the law of karma.
Oftentimes being the victim of a story has become so embedded in a person's sense of self that
as I provided answers they provided the next level to the problem, always a but! It could be
quite amusing if it wasn't so sad.
What I do know for sure is that "trying" to heal the world one person at a time is a futile exercise.
It’s depleting and frustrating to say the least.
I also know for sure that the only person I can heal is ME! And that in itself is a daunting task
always always observing and adjusting.
The place I have arrived at is one of love and compassion balanced with wisdom.
That this is all that is required, to just SHOW UP in the world with an OPEN compassionate
HEART and be KIND.