Therapy Without Words by Debbie
Counsellors, psychologists, therapists and friends, for that matter, all want us to tell our story.
What happened, when it happened, how it happened, why it happened, that is if we know why, and where it happened. We make statements of what we perceive to be the facts through the filters of our conditioning.
The professionals will listen and make notes nod and provide a space for us to speak into, allowing feelings and events to be questioned in a safe supportive environment. Friends on the other hand want all the “goss” the get down and dirty bits and pieces, sometimes only to feed their own sense of and need for drama.
Our story gets told and retold over the years in an attempt to shift the trauma. This wound becomes our identity. “I was abused!” And so I become a victim of abuse, it becomes the badge I walk around with. It doesn’t matter that this event in question happened last month or 10 years ago it is so anchored in our identity that without it we would not know who we were.
If we look at our lives, right now, in this very moment, everything is perfect, there is nothing wrong and there is no abuse. It’s only when we begin to talk about it that the abuse is brought into this moment and our body shifts to accommodate the wound. Arms fold to protect the solar plexus, the seat and expression of our personal power in the world. This moment’s perfection has been overlaid with that moments tainting.
The moments of our lives are lost when we expand and anchor the stories of our pain. The stories feed the pain. It thrives on the energy of the words we use to describe it, this assumed identity.
None of this means that the pain is not real, that the event did not happen, that there was no abuse.
There was, IT IS REAL!
BUT, what if we stopped giving the pain body words to feed on. What if we looked beneath the words at the suppressed feelings directly. Yes, words are one of the keys to unlocking the feelings as they move the energy of the story stirring up the emotions. If these words can be spoken into a safe space there is great potential for healing. If there is no safe space or this hasn’t worked to this point, there is work that can be done without words.
Most forms of energy healing will facilitate this. The one I can speak to and am familiar with is Reiki, a gentle passive modality that can move the energy of trauma from the physical and energetic bodies over a few sessions in a calm peaceful supportive environment.
The other healing modality that comes to mind is Collage Therapy. A lot of people who have suffered great emotional pain say that they have nightmares which is our way of dealing with unfinished business sitting in the subconscious. Collage Therapy allows us to explore the subconscious with creative expression. The images on paper tell a story that hold the key to those long buried emotions.
There are so many forms of therapy available today and new ones popping up all the time. They are all valid, all have a place and purpose. Some will speak to one person and not to the next, we need to find the therapy and facilitator that resonates with us. Life has a way of nudging us to where we are meant to go and to whom is meant to help us.