And, I am not sure, but I don't think he is the only one! We all know an Eeyore.
I have a dear dear friend who is very sick, he is weary of the constant struggle against life, he seems to be caught in a downward spiral and can't halt the momentum. His immediate family are not being as supportive as expected in this situation. Sigh*
Being in despair and frustration, he calls around gathering support for his situation from friends near and far. Telling his tale of woe and garnering pity, and the mud gets deeper. This does not take away from the fact that his situation is dire and from his perspective, waist deep, there does not seem to be a way to turn. His stories get witnessed and validated and nothing changes.
Whilst we live our lives expecting others to change or at least meet us halfway with change we will invariably be disappointed. Every suggestion I make is met with a BUT, yes but or no but. No change, a stalemate leaving ONLY him in misery.
How do we ultimately step out of the quagmire?