in fact it's a sure thing for much "unhappiness" or discord.
Relationships require WORK! Lots!
We bring with us into relationship expectations of what it should look like, and when it doesn't
appear in that form we become victim's of our should be's.
I will only love you if…..
You fill all of my should be’s. There are veiled constantly mutating unattainable terms and conditions,
like the ever shifting sands of a track through the desert. Your ideal is unrealistic,
illusory and unsustainable.
We blame our partner for not following the script and sticking to their lines.
Yes, we may meet a partner who is willing to entertain our fantasies, but even as he/she is
robotically ticking all of our checkboxes – already we feel dissatisfied.
After much of this the relationship can either breakdown or breakthrough.
The gap between what is happening and what we expect to be happening creates stress.
We can actually arrive at Happily Ever After by putting down our expectations and being with
what is in all its perfection.
Finding yourself in a loving relationship is no guarantee of eternal joy and happiness, in fact it's a sure thing for much "unhappiness" or discord. When 2 personalities or rather EGOS co-exist it creates a rub.