How do we choose who we choose? Or does LOVE choose for us ?
As we go about our life we meet many beautiful people, potential partners but what makes us select one over another?
Each person we meet shows us an aspect or aspects of ourselves.
One may show us our gentleness another our kindness and yet another our jealousy.
It is not only our light that gets reflected but our shadow too.
We bathe in the light but the dark we usually reject as not us but them!
Relationships that reflect our lighter aspects tend to be smooth sailing with little conflict but not much growth.
The ones that bring out our shadow bring us a gift, but only if we are prepared to look at these aspects of ourselves as they emerge into the light and OWN them. In seeing them they are transformed.
Generally it takes us a while to find what we are looking for, and with that comes lots of pain, lots of learning and plenty of growth.
What we are really trying to do is extract the essence of each person we meet and blend these together to create our ideal "match".
Do we settle for the best "fit" we can find and forget about the misaligned aspects or "think" we can change those to best suit our agenda in time?
Ummmm, NO !
That is never going to work longterm.
So then, what do we do, how do we choose ?
The answer is RESONANCE!
Resonance is defined as synchronous vibration or reverberation. We look we search or we wait for someone we reverberate with on ALL LEVELS.
We are energetic beings, all of us, doesn't matter how lazy you are lol.
We are made up of energy and that energy is in constant motion ie it vibrates at its very own unique frequency.
As we go out into the world we are constantly sending out and receiving signals.
We are reading and being read, mostly without even being aware of it.
What we are ultimately looking for is that someone who is in tune with us, who hears our song and sings it back to us.
Its like having 2 guitars in the same room, tuned to the same frequency, pluck the G string on one and the G string on the other vibrates.
That's how we choose, that's how we connect with our heart mate.
We feel the beat, hear the harmony and stop searching
Close your eyes. Fall in love. Stay there - Rumi