Sacred Attention by Debbie
One of the greatest gifts we can give to another is our Sacred Attention.
Life has become so insular, so fast we hardly even notice if there is anyone else in the room with us.
There always seems too much to do and too many distractions preventing us from doing these things.
We can chat away all day on various forms of messenger, missing each other along the way. What I write will invariably NOT be what you read and so we miscommunicate and conflict arises.
Communication is so much more than just the words, there is the energy, the tone, facial expression and body movements that give us the complete picture. But even then there is gap between what is being said and what is heard.
Far less conflict, misunderstanding and miscommunication occurs when we STOP what we are doing and, bring our attention to the PRESENT moment. Bringing our awareness to the person in front of us and listening to what is being said. Listen to hear, not to reply!
At times we can be so full of our own opinions and the need to express them that we don’t hear anything, although we appear to be listening, we are just waiting for a gap to add our two cents worth, to feel important and to feel validated in being heard, in being right.
I love meeting new people and finding out who they are by listening to their stories. Connecting with an open heart creates a safe space into which people can speak. I hear life stories, troubles and triumphs. They in turn get to be heard, accepted, and validated in the telling. Some stories are as old as time, some are stuck in a loop and some are stuck in the body. In putting these stories into words there is an opportunity for the teller to hear them and to feel the vibration of the words. The telling itself can create healing as some stories don’t sound as bad once told as they did doing circles in the mind. The energy of some words vibrating through the body can unlock supressed emotions. But most importantly, to be held in a space of Sacred Attention, there is a letting go into acceptance, into being heard, into love.